How to Evaluate Whether Someone Loves You – Part 1
It’s time to blow some love bubbles. Most of us love to hear those words, “I love you”, from the ones that matter most. But did you know that “I love you” is one of the most overused phrases. It’s as common as the responses we normally get when we ask a person how are you doing? “I’m fine.” What does that mean “I’m fine”? In the same way, what does it mean when someone says, “I love you”? Don’t checkout on me yet. By the time you get to the end of this post, you’ll know how to evaluate whether someone loves you, once and for all.
If the phrase, wasn’t so “common” I’d believe it when someone uses it. You see I challenge every and anything that becomes commonplace. How can someone love you and place you on the back-burner? How can someone love you and you’re their second thought and not the first? How can someone love you, but it’s always about them having their way? Now that I have your attention, let’s tie this into the book I’m working on, The 16 Levels of Love.
In order to experience love, wouldn’t you need to know how to define it? Let’s just say there was a place you could go to get all your “love” related answers – The Tower of Love. Where would you need to start?
Love is a demonstration.
Let’s start with what love is not. It is not the words that come out of a person’s mouth. You already know how much you can count on just mere words. It’s funny how we will accept someone’s word on something so important, yet we won’t trust them beyond our vision to see them. Love is a demonstration of selflessness towards another. In other words, love is an act of my selflessness towards another. I know you’re wondering how I know this. I can go into many reasons, but one in particular I want to give you today.
“This is real love—not that we loved God, but that he loved us and sent his Son as a sacrifice to take away our sins.”
Relationship Gone Wild?
You know you have to admit that being burned in a love-relationship is “normal”. Yes, you thought he loved you or you thought she loved you, yet for some reason it turns out they did not. This is a “common” human experience. It’s become so common that we expect it to happen to anyone, namely yourself. This brings me to a profound conclusion…”love” is not “normal”. It can’t be “normal” because love can’t go wrong. So the things you called “love” wasn’t actually “love” at all.
I’ve not gone left in one of my posts in a while, so here I go. I’m going to make it extremely difficult for another person to get away with just saying “I love you” to you. More importantly, I don’t want to allow anyone else to get away with saying that they love me. I believe you can only get the definition of love from the source. Love defined by God, which He calls “real love”, is an action either towards someone else or towards me.
How different would your relationship be if you had the “real love” definition to base your relationship on? Leave me a comment.
In my next post, we will continue with this thought of how to evaluate whether someone loves you.