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Redefining Relationships – Part 7

In my previous writings focused on the 16 Levels of Love, I haven’t spoken much about love. In fact, I haven’t talked about love at all. I had a lot of pre-work to do, but now you’re ready.

I heard a guy say once that he “beats” his women. That’s how he expressed love. Doesn’t that sound crazy. It’s extreme and at the same time a common example that people have no idea of what love really is.

Where does “love” fit into this relationship?
You know it wouldn’t be me if I didn’t 1st burst your bubble a little. “Love” is not a feeling. Let’s get that out of the way. Yeah, I know you want to say, you fell in love. I’m not sorry to be the one to tell you this, you didn’t fall into anything. I can’t stand here and let you be normal and say such things. I can’t stand here and let you think like a normal person. Just like any other couple, you became attracted to someone and you either liked what you saw or what you heard. How in the world can you fall in love with someone you hardly know? Is “love” that simple? If that was true (and it isn’t), that would mean you could fall out of love. We’d fall in love for no reason at all and possibly with people we don’t like and fall out of love with people we like. What if your mom, fell out of love with her children. Sorry kids, I’ve fallen out of love with you. What if your kids, fall out of love with you. They awaken one day and say I’ve fallen out of love with you mom or dad. You’d think that was silly and it is. It’s just as silly as believing adults in relationship with each other too fall in and out of love. These scenarios, falling in and out of love, don’t exist in scripture. So where did you get this from? You got that from ordinary people, people who don’t read and live by what uncommon people live by, the B I B L E. Some call them, unbelievers.
The Unbelieving Marriage
Guys, let’s think through this process for just a moment. Let’s say you love someone and get married, where does a person learn what that means or how that looks? How does a person know how to love and how to be married? I know I have some smart people in the room with me and your first answer is the Bible. But you can stop that, most don’t read The Bible, that’s not normal, and since you’re telling me people get their relationship rules and love guidelines from The Bible, that they don’t read, then they don’t have either (rules or guidelines for marriage). Do they? So unbelievers go into this love thing and marriages blindly. They have no truth in how to love and no truth in what being married means. I would say this is so based on the results of marriage our society is seeing. I really want to know why someone would decide to love another or even consider getting married without being students of the Bible. It would seem to me that they don’t need to love nor do they need to get married. You know how some things are “anti-Christ”; this would be one of those things that should be “anti-normal”. How can someone love and even marry without the truth of God’s Word? I’m afraid that’s why you’re reading my blog. They can’t. Normal people can’t. The unbelieving marriage isn’t a marriage at all because there’s no Bible to define it.

There has to be more to this love thing. This is why I’ve dedicated this year to writing the book, the 16 Levels of Love. “Love” has to be more than what ordinary people define it as. Their love isn’t working.

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I know many of you are saying that love in the church isn’t working well either. I’m not talking about love the church, the hospital for the sickest human beings on the planet. I’m talking about love as defined from the truth that can only come from Him. I learned through personal experience that just because you go to church doesn’t mean that the church is in you.

Now before I end this post, I’d like to give you something to think about. There’s an activity I like to practice. When I see my knowledge of some subject is clouded and maybe misunderstood, I start over with a blank sheet of paper. I act as if I know nothing about the subject. That’s what I’m asking you to do regarding this four letter word, “love”. Start over, what does it mean? Don’t guess. Don’t get your answer from someone else who doesn’t know. Go get the answer you need from the source yourself.

How would starting over with what you know about “love” change how you’ve been a victim of what ordinary people say love is? Leave a comment below.