4 Ingredients to Redefining Love

Love is Uncommon

Redefining Relationships Part 8

In our previous post, we discussed “where does ‘love’ fit into the picture or relationship?”  Our goal is to help redefine love so that we no longer define it by what we’ve experienced in the past or heard others talk about.  Allow me to say it this way, when you hear your friends discuss their love life, it’s always painted with the problems they’ve had or are having.  Most of them only refer to having a good love-life when (in the words of my sister), the “love” is new, “new love”.  What she’s referencing is the first stage of the relationship called the infatuation stage.  Not to be too technical, today I want to take the concept of my next book, The 16 Levels of Love, just a little further.

Today I’m unpacking the truth about the 4 ingredients needed to redefine love.  Why redefine love?  It’s not working.  Ordinary love relationships aren’t working out, so how can we get a relationship that does?  Stop being normal.  In this post, we shed light on how to look at redefining love through uncommon eyes.  I want to share with you the 4 fundamentals for redefining love, so let’s get right to it.

1. Normal people see “love” as one dimensional.

It’s normal to have a one dimensional view of love.  We (people that is) tend to use the word and not even mean it.  Its definition is so broad in our minds that we accept the words in the same way we accept a person’s response to how they’re doing.  “I’m fine.  How are you?  Doing good.”  In general conversations, these words don’t mean a lot.  It’s interesting that no matter how a person is doing they mainly answer “fine”.  In the same way,  “I love you” has become nothing more than a salutation.  We use the words without having any qualifications.

2. Love has at least 16 pieces or characteristics.

You can relax; I’m not going to name the 16 pieces today.  Those will come later which is the very reason I’m writing the book.  I’ve noticed that love has many pieces that a person can experience and we often settle for only a few when there are so many more to explore.  These aren’t steps that progress, but rather attributes that you can tap into.  To give you an example, the love you have for your spouse differs from the love you have for your children.  Why is that, if the word is the same?  What happens is for your spouse you tapped into one characteristic that you didn’t with your children and vice-versa.  Seemingly, love has some pieces you’re missing out on enjoying.  I want you to experience as many as possible, hopefully all 16 when you love and are loved.

3. You must be willing to start over.

I’m afraid the only way to truly change who a person is, is to start over.  You see, there’s something called your truth-base; it’s the things you hold dear and when people come into opposition with this truth-base there’s resistance.  What you need to do is clear the page and reexamine what you know for yourself.  Starting over isn’t a bad thing.  It’s the best thing.  It allows you to strengthen who your are with what you know and set out to fully discover all new things.  To understand love, you have to remove what you already know and open yourself to learning about it with new eyes.  There is no other way.

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4. There is a prerequisite you don’t know about.

Before you can ever encounter the 16 pieces or characteristics that are available with love, you need something in place first.  You need to know that there is a missing ingredient.  Once you have the ingredient, your whole world will change.  So what’s this ingredient?  I’m going to end this post with giving you the ingredient, but you’ll have to come back next week to understand the ingredient.

“…God is love, and all who live in love live in God, and God lives in them.” – ‭‭1 John‬ ‭4:16‬ ‭NLT‬‬

Love is God.  Love = God.
No person can ever love without God.  Think about that until next week.

Question: What are you looking to experience in a love relationship that you may not be getting right now?  Leave a comment below or click here to email me.