The Unbelieving Relationship

What happens when common people try to do uncommon things?  I bet you’re wondering where I’m going with such a statement.  It’s amazing how people who don’t believe in God try to do Godly things – like get married.  You’ll find often that unbelievers (ordinary people) will try things that’s for believers.  How can one be successful in marriage, which God created, without doing it God’s way?  That’s common.  How will you know how to love if very few know how to love?  What good is trying to have a relationship like marriage and not knowing the rules or how it works?  A relationship, any relationship, like marriage, must have its foundation in “love” which is a God-thing.  What good is having any relationship without it?

Here’s why we call this post “The Unbelieving Relationship”:  a.) the people involved no longer believe it will work and b.) people who don’t believe are trying to have a relationship that requires their belief.

 “Love each other in the same way I have loved you.” ~ Jesus

Loved Uncommonly
Loving someone like Jesus loved?  That sounds like an uncommon thought.  Does that mean I must be willing to lay down my life – ambitions, attitude, desires, goals, agenda – to bless my spouse?  The answer is yes, if necessary.  If you didn’t want to hear that, you would not be reading this post; it’s about being uncommon.  If you want to be loved uncommonly, you need to know what it means to be loved uncommonly and how to love uncommonly.  This is a rare sight in typical marriages, today.  In most marriages, each individual loves themselves far more than they love their spouse.  Loving like Jesus is the total opposite.  I know what you’re thinking, if my spouse doesn’t love me then I shouldn’t love him/her back.  And I will conclude that’s “normal” thinking.  Again, you’ve not visited nolongercommon.com to be told what’s normal.  You have a desire to be much better; the opposite of what’s common.  A lasting (uncommon) marriage is one in which each participant loves their partner more than they love themselves.  This means that they will continue to make unconditional sacrifices for the other.  

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Common: Many feel that if they are the only one in the marriage practicing this, it can be difficult and maybe not worth it.  However, what the typical person doesn’t realize is, the only other choice is to treat them, their significant other, as badly as you think you’re treated in return.  I don’t believe this resolves any of the issues and in fact I am pretty sure it will create more.  That’s common.

If and when you change your “normal” thinking to countercultural thinking, you’ll get uncommon results.  Love the person you’re in relationship with, in the same way Jesus [who was unlike any other human on earth] loves you.   Jesus set the standard of how to relate to others.  This standard is illustrated in the various floors (we’ll discuss later) in the “16 Levels of Love.”  It’s an uncommon thought to practice loving your significant other unlike any human-being on earth ever has and ever will.

I challenge you to stop being ordinary, average and common.  What would happen if you loved those you’re in relationship with unlike anyone has ever loved them before?  Leave a comment below or reply via email using the form below.