The Secret to Having Good Friends

Loved Like No Other

Part 5 – The Secret to Having Good Friends

The start of a “normal” friendship
Every relationship outside of family first starts with an established friendship.  The question you should be asking is why would I bring that up?  Be careful what you ask for!  If relationships start with a friendship and you don’t know how or what it means to be a friend, then how will any of your relationships truly sustain?  Could this explain why you have relationship problems?  Don’t worry it’s “normal”!  

What does this mean for the people who befriend you?  If they too have no idea of what it means to be a friend then what disadvantages are they about to bring your way?  The “normal” kind of headaches?!  This is okay; it’s normal!  It’s what “normal” people do.  

Enough fake friends
I believe the word friend is overused.  In fact, it’s an insult to the few that are truly your friends.  I don’t want to classify casual-friends with the same identifier as my closest-friends.  They all can’t be friends.  So what gives?  

Let’s talk about your social media friends for a second.  I recently learned from those teaching me how to be more social on the social media networks that on particular social forums people don’t expect to see the truth.  So friends on these networks never get to see the true you or you never get to see the true them.  If this is the case, and it is, what type of friendships are we forming?  

When you have to dress-up who you are for another, they’re not your friends.  Now we get to talk about what’s uncommon.  Having someone in your life who really likes you for you, that’s uncommon.  No “putting-on” necessary.  What’s “normal” is most people will never have this type of friend and never get to feel this type of comfort in another human being.  They’re too busy being consumed by “normal”.  Sorry “normal” isn’t okay after all.

“Normal” confuses the word “friend”
Could it be that we call every person we have knowledge of our friends?  That sounds about right.  Meet my friend.  If you had to introduce someone you know to someone else, generally this is the phrase you use. Meet my friend so-and-so.  

Friends are people who have things in “common”.  Based on your friends, I can determine where you’re heading and if they’re heading down a path you don’t want to go then you’re in a bad situation.  “Normal” people overlook this and head down those paths anyway.  

Will you continue to have “normal” friendships?  Is this hitting home?  Are you thinking about someone you’ve befriended and they’re just adding unnecessary hardships to your life?  If this is you, you can change that today.

You can say no more to just casual friendships.  I did.  I got rid of all the causal friendships and today I’m friends with guys I hand picked because my life meant more to me than just having some ordinary people in my life to call “friends”.