Normal (No-)Love is So Enticing

Marriage is a Gift – Part 4

What’s keeping you from having the results you desire in that relationship or in your marriage?  I bet the problem is “normal”.  Why does it seem like we continue to go uphill?  Why are we struggling?  I like saying this… I don’t have all the answers, but I do have an answer.  Here’s a thought to consider.  Usually, that means 51% of the time or greater, things in life, on the job, in school, go wrong when we don’t understand what it is we’re doing.  Our society’s majority wants us to believe that “love” comes naturally.  This is the very reason why I’m writing this book, The 16 Levels of Love.  I’m sorry to announce that “love” does not come naturally.  And there’s really nothing natural about it, about Him.  In fact, I believe nothing comes naturally.  Even your natural talents need work, training and practice.  Saying the word “naturally” for me is the red-flag that says there will be issues.  In this post, I need to explain that oil and vinegar don’t mix and neither does “love” and wrong people.  When I say “wrong” people, I mean ordinary, normal, everyday people.

Letting go of wrong people
In order to enter a relationship that has “love”, there can no longer be ordinary people.  “Love” is a characteristic for the uncommon, because there’s nothing normal about it.  Remember from our previous post and contrary to what’s naturally taught, love is equal to God.  There are no ordinary people who have a connection with God because once you connect with Him you lose your ability to be ordinary.  You become what I call no-longer-common and no longer a part of the majority-normal.  When you decide to connect with “love”, you can kiss the wrong people goodbye.  It’s not even intentional.  The wrong people will be alienated for one of two reasons: 1) because of you they make the change and become uncommon or 2) they run from you because you’ve become uncommon.  Regardless, the wrong people will let you go.  If you’re still dealing with the wrong people, you need to check your “love” connection.

Negative Actions Won’t Produce Positive Results.
There’s a natural expectation that the majority expect positive results even when doing the wrong thing. In other words, a person who attempts to have a relation in their own way believes they can make it work.  If you haven’t learned this yet, you will, normal relationships don’t work.  Better yet, normal marriages don’t work.  You can see this anywhere.  It’s time to stop fooling ourselves into believing that we may get lucky and have the relationship we dream of and at the same time do very little to attain such.  If doing nothing produces, a normal relationship then it’s simple…doing something that normal people don’t will produce uncommon relationships.  Negative actions produce negative results.  Common actions produce common results.  What do you think needs to happen to produce uncommon results?

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The Small Test Yields the Large Test
You’re not reading this blog by accident.  You’re no-longer-common.  You, like me, are tired of having the same average, common, like-everyone-else kind of results, especially in our most important relationships.
I’ve heard it said and have even said it myself, “it’s hard to be big when little’s got you!”  I usually get upset when a person says that they’re going through a test or God’s testing me.  My question for them and for you is when are you going to pass the test.  Only “normal”, average people wrestle and have problems with tests.  The uncommon, those connected to “Love”, excel at tests.  We have help and whether small or large, we pass the tests.  Your relationship isn’t being tested because of you, on the contrary, have the answer key for the test.  What test?  If you feel like you’re struggling with tests,  you need to sign up for no-longer-common 101 (if that existed).  Only normal, average, mediocre people struggle with tests and have to blame their current status on the test their facing.

The Alternative is So Enticing
Giving in or failing the test is easy.  It’s what most do.  51% or more won’t even take the test, the challenge, or the opportunity.  The alternative to being uncommon is so enticing because most of those around you are common.  Don’t settle for the alternative, you have what it takes to be the best.  Your best.  No matter how hard the test looks, you have help to make an ‘A’.  You have help to make your marriage the best marriage ever.  You have what it takes to turn your business around.  You have what it take to be uncommon.

What’s blocking your desired result from coming to pass?  Normal is.  You’re not normal.  You’re not average.  You’re one of a kind, a step above, an exceptional person.  The results you desire are just around the corner on the other side of “common”.

Question:  What normal challenge, situation or obstacle is standing in your way to being great? Leave a comment below or click here to email me.